A Moment With Pastor Fred
The Bible has a lot to say about sex. Unfortunately, the topic is off-limits in many churches – and that is to our detriment. We spend so much time clarifying what sex is not that we’ve lost the biblical vision of what it is – and more importantly, why God created it. This is why I highly recommend the book by pastor/counselor Scott Mehl, “Redeeming Sex in Marriage.”
The Bible teaches there are 5 purposes for marital intimacy: a means of covenantal union; a means of mutual pleasure; an expression of marital love; the formation of new life; a shadow of our relationship with Christ, as his church. The author devotes half the book to the theology behind sex and the 2nd half to the practical. His 2 chapters on marital guidelines for intimacy are invaluable. The first: “Start with your heart – God-centered and others-focused. Confess that you are still prone to bring selfishness into the bedroom.”
Mehl’s appendix (having the “talk(s)”) is worth the book for young parents. “The world is teaching your kids about sex. It doesn’t matter if they’re in a homeschool, a private school or a public school. Our society’s … secular worldview, shaped by the sexual revolution, its impacting how your kids view and think about sex. Your child’s fallen heart is also shaping [them] … What our kids need isn’t a book, a curriculum, or some scripted ‘talk.’ They need parents … They need relationships that can help them to navigate the complexities of sexuality in this confused world.”
A book review is available at the kiosk. I encourage couples to purchase this book and read it as husband and wife. There are discussion questions after each chapter.