A Moment With Pastor Fred

I found interesting the advice a New York divorce attorney gives to married couples. James Sexton charges $750 an hour for his services. Most people he meets with have already made the decision to call it quits. However, listen to his marital counsel. “Try loving your spouse a quarter as much as you love your cat … Be as polite to your spouse as you are to strangers … If your marriage has gone south, try as a last-ditch effort doing one kind act a day for a month and see what happens.” Sexton isn’t a Christian – he knows nothing of the power of the gospel that can resurrect the deadest marriage. But his advice stings.  

Alistair Begg wrote, “Most marriages don’t disintegrate because of some bizarre event that appears like a devasting scud missile out of the blue. Much more frequently, the love in the relationship gradually evaporates like a slow leak in a tire that goes undetected for a long time.” Marriage is a call for vigilance.

More of Sexton’s advice. “Just be kind to your spouse … all the things you were to each other when you were dating … What if it’s that simple? What if it’s just leaving a note before you go to work that says, ‘I married the prettiest girl in the world. See you later.’ There’s no product you have to buy … What does it cost you to tell your spouse they’re beautiful or that they’re funny, or that they’re smart, or that they’re a great mom?” 

This is exactly what the apostle says.  “Outdo each other in showing honor,” Rom 12:10.  That’s for marriages too.